02 Oct Inadequacy in HD
Look closely at this brilliant array of autumn foliage. See the stunning and unique beauty in each and every leaf. So, which leaf is the best? Hopefully you can’t begin to answer that. How could anyone assume that one of these leaves is better, more pleasing, more adequate than another? And yet, as humans, we make such comparisons all the time.
Here’s a little of what Seth Godin wrote in a recent post: ‘Inadequacy on Parade’
“A never-ending stream of pictures. People who are prettier than you, happier than you, more confident than you. Weddings that are fancier than yours was, with sun-dappled trees, luscious desserts and delighted relatives. Or perhaps it’s the status updates from everyone who is where you aren’t, but wish you were.
In the short run, gazing at all this perfection gives us a short hit of dopamine, a chance to imagine what it might be like.
Over time, though, the grinding inadequacy can wear us down. It’s okay to turn it off.”
Interestingly the same day I read Seth’s post another post popped into my inbox– “Taming the Mammoth: Why You Should Stop Caring What Other People Think”.
This post had an interesting way of explaining why we as humans tend to crave social acceptance.
Our bodies and minds are built to live in a tribe in 50,000BC because back then, being part of a tribe was critical to survival. A tribe meant food and protection in a time when neither was easy to come by. Fitting in with others, not being rejected, in other words being ‘socially accepted’ was everything. Where does that leave us modern humans?…with a number of unfortunate traits, one of which is a fixation with tribal-style social survival in a world where social survival is no longer a real concept. We’re all here in 2018, accompanied by a large, hungry, and easily freaked-out woolly mammoth who still thinks it’s 50,000BC. Why else would you try on four outfits and still not be sure what to wear before going out? (Tim Urban)
Back to Seth Godin: ‘It’s okay to be you.’
Yes it might mean ‘changing the dial’. Most definitely it takes courage, courage to be you. Just like our stunning array of autumn foliage above, we each harbour a beauty all our own. Let’s be thankful for who we are, thankful for what we can uniquely contribute to the world around us.
Have a wonderful day, and thank you for reading, Cheerios ~Linda